Whether you’re a groom, best man or father of the bride, here’s four of the best wedding speeches ever to provide you with some wedding speech inspiration and examples of the best wedding speeches..
4 of the Best Wedding Speeches Ever
We love a good speech here at Wedding Ideas. When wedding speeches are done right, they can be the highlight of the reception. If you’re looking for some creative, unique and hilarious wedding speech inspiration, then take a look at some of our favourites below…
We’ve had a special place in our hearts for singing grooms ever since we watched Tom Fletcher of McFly’s amazing tribute to his wife Giovanna. However, it was his groom’s speech that got us this time and it’s just as inventive!
Nonetheless, we’re not sure the mother of the groom appreciated the fart jokes.
Now, this is one devoted dad. We love this amazing poem from father of the bride Tom – it’s not easy to write a wedding speech that’s funny, touching and rhymes.
We recommend you put the subtitles on in this video to truly appreciate his wonderful words.
Our favourite moments are Tom’s beautiful dedication to his wife and the mother of the bride. You can find this around five minutes in, and his general advice for newlywed couples at the nine-minute mark.
Best man Speech
There’s nothing better than a funny best man‘s speech, and this is one of our favourites.
The typical one-liners about marriage have everyone cracking up but it’s the twist we love. The best man had a huge cardboard cut-out of the groom in a costume made up. Plus, we bet it made for a great photo opportunity later too.
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Maid of Honour Speech
Who said only men should give wedding speeches at receptions? This amazing rap by the bride’s sister just goes to show that us girls can rock it.
We love that she still managed to get a bit of good life advice in at the end too. Plus everyone clearly loved it – a truly brilliant wedding speech.
Ready to raise your glass to word-perfect wedding speeches? Do you want the whole room to be roaring with laughter or holding back happy tears? One thing’s for certain: you don’t want your speeches to be a flop. Take inspiration from five real speeches to make your guests laugh. If these couples can nail their wedding speeches, you can do too.
5 Real Speeches to Make Your Guests Laugh
Surprise songs from the best men
Even though they opted for a laid-back wedding, Alexa and Jamie were happy to have the traditional speeches too. The best men and a good friend ensured that tradition went out of the window, however, when they then became a fantastic band and sang a couple of hilarious songs about Jamie and Alexa.
Furthermore, they had only practised once or twice in the back of a van prior to the wedding. The whole party loved the thoughtful chorus.
Video messages and perfect poetry
When Sally and Martin married, the bride’s mother read a wedding-related poem, ‘He’s Not Perfect’ by Bob Marley, as a speech.
“She read it out to me in the morning while I was getting ready and had the whole party in tears. I asked her to read it again before the speeches!”
Sally’s brother Jack couldn’t make the big day, so as a surprise he recorded Mcfly’s ‘It’s All About You’.
“A projector displayed his singing, which was accompanied by photographs of me and Martin from over the years,” remembers Sally.
“I’d managed to hold back the tears all day until this point!”
For Jaime and Blake, the speeches kicked off with Jaime’s mum and brother doing a joint speech with loving stories and childhood memories. Blake gave a heartfelt speech.
“He left no one out and really honoured me and our families,” smiles Jaime.
“I spoke last, I felt it was important to say thank you to everyone that made the day so perfect for us.
“Our wedding day also fell on the same day that we held my dad’s memorial service eight years ago, under those same flat-grown trees on the farm. It was a great way to honour his memory and bring him alive on our big day.”
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Prizegivings, heartfelt words and howling laughter
A twist on tradition, Jess decided to give a short speech herself, thanking the bridesmaids, best men and her parents. In place of wedding favours this fun loving couple arranged a duck bobbing competition. Jess announced the winners and gave out the prizes during her speech, before the men the stepped in with their own.
“Jordy did an incredible speech that was very emotional and heartfelt, I felt so proud of him. My dad did a great job of making everyone laugh and cry and Matt, Jordan’s best man, had the whole room howling with laughter to finish!”
Silly hats and embarrassing photos
Finally, the two best men at Natalie and Kieth’s wedding brought props along to their speech.
“The speeches were very entertaining, involving everyone in the room putting on silly hats that they had secretly brought with them.
“There were embarrassing photos of us as children and a very emotional speech from Keith,” says Natalie.
The two best men finished with a joint speech, including funny anecdotes with lots of references to Keith’s love of useless information and random facts too.
Giving a speech at any time can be incredibly nerve-wracking, let alone at a wedding. Wedding speeches can really take your audience on an emotional rollercoaster, especially when done right. So we’ve pulled together some wedding speech tips to help you deliver a memorable speech.
Wedding Speech Tips
We caught up with leading speechwriter, commentator and coach, Lawrence Bernstein, who’s got some top wedding speech tips to help you get started.
The Father of the bride
Who’s you new son in law?
Although your primary purpose is to talk about your daughter in your wedding speech, don’t make the mistake of forgetting to mention your new son-in-law. Love him or loathe him, half the guests are there for him and they’ll be wanting to know how happy you are for them both.
Welcome the guests
It’s a nice gesture for the father of the bride to mention those who’ve travelled far and anyone of a significant age. I.E the very old or the very young.
Keep it short
Yours is the first wedding speech so don’t let it drag on too long. Make sure it’s no more than 10 minutes (timed when speaking slowly) which on paper is about 1,000 words.
Managing the nerves
If the big moment has arrived and you’re feeling terrified, then before you start the speech, ask the people at the back of the room if they can hear you. It’s an old trick, but it allows you to get those first few words out, will get a response from the crowd, and should help you settle.
Don’t forget to take a glass with you to make a toast to the Bride and Groom.
The Best Man
Humour vs Sincerity:
Too many Best Men write their wedding speeches with a bunch of friends over a few beers. This can be fun at the time but often results in a speech high on rude stories and innuendo but low on sincerity. Strike a balance. The audience will enjoy some jokes at the Groom’s expense but in context. This demonstrates he’s a good friend with some decent qualities.
Ask the Groom’s parents for stories from his childhood. Also ask his siblings for their version of events from the early years, his fiancée about her first impressions of him and the stags for any memorable stories. Do this to get a good mixture of content.
It’s not all about you
It may be tempting to focus your speech on your own relationship with the Groom, but if you labour the point too heavily it can sound like narcissism. This is not your chance to boast about how close you are, how funny you find each other or how many girls you’ve both slept with.
At the same time don’t gush
If you’re the emotional type you might be tempted to use your speech to thank him publicly for everything he’s done for you. Be careful. Very few people will care and you risk appearing self-indulgent.
Don’t be put off by a heckle
The rest of your audience will want to hear what you have to say. And most of them will be as irritated as you are by the uninvited interruption. Smile, pause and carry on.
Some Brides want to use their speech to mark the end of the celebrations. This can be dangerous. Some guests will have left, many will be drunk and you may have missed the moment. I’d suggest speaking directly after your husband. Here you can provide a female perspective and leave it to the Best Man to finish things off.
Enlist a friend
Most wedding dresses don’t leave much room for your notes. So make sure you’ve asked a bridesmaid or close friend in advance to hold onto your speech until you need it.
Consult the other speakers
Your biggest risk is covering ground that has already been mentioned in the other speeches. I would strongly recommend that however original you think your speech may be, you have a quick chat with your Groom, your Dad and the Best Man to ensure there is no overlap!
Be nice to your new family
This is not the time to offend your mother-in-law. You’ve got plenty of years ahead of you to do that. If you’re mentioning your own family, it would be courteous to include your husband’s too.
End with a Toast
I wouldn’t repeat one of the traditional toasts given by the other speakers. This is a great opportunity to include other people or say something a little bit different. You could toast your hosts (i.e. ‘Mum and Dad’) or propose a more general toast to ‘friends and family’.
Avoid a long list of thank yous
Nothing can be more dull or unoriginal than a speech that resembles a school register of thanks. Stick to those that really need a mention.
Having said that
Don’t forget to thank your new in-laws (particularly if they are hosting the wedding). Also remember to thank your own parents. This is an opportunity to thank them for all those years of help and support.
Don’t spend more time building up the Best Man over the Bride
Although it’s nice to reference the Best Man and poke a bit of fun at him, remember that your wedding day is about your relationship with your Bride, not your best mate.
Liaise with her Dad
Assuming he is speaking before you, it’s worth checking that you are not going to be duplicating too many thanks or anecdotes. Check what he is saying about your Bride, how you met, and the proposal.
She’s your ‘wife’ so feel free to mention it!
Nothing gets more of heart-warming cheer than the line “my wife and I…”. Yes it’s predicable and a little bit cheesy, but the novelty of hearing it for the first time never fails to please your new bride or your guests. And that cheer will relax a nervous speaker no end.
Lawrence has written speeches and presentations for hundreds of clients in the UK and overseas, including businessmen, politicians and hundreds of nervous Fathers-of-the Bride, Best Men and Brides. If you want more wedding speech tips from him, visit www.greatspeechwriting.co.uk
The best man speech is usually the most eagerly awaited of all the wedding speeches – so if you’ve been tasked with writing a funny best man speech, here’s some best man speech examples, template ideas and tips on how to structure, write and deliver a knockout best man speech…
The best man’s speech outline and template – what to include in your best man speech…
Have a killer opening line and introduce yourself as the best man
Thank the other speakers (the father-of-the-bride, the groom etc)
Make a joke about the groom or tell a short story about the groom thats funny
Compliment the bride
Congratulate the happy couple
Read messages from guests who couldn’t make it, if there are any
Speak about love, quote a few famous lines or a poem
Propose a toast to the bride and groom
Best man speech ideas and structure
Best man speech opening lines
First and foremost, get everyone’s attention and set an amusing tone for your best man speech with a comical opening line or icebreaker – this could be something funny about your own ordeal in the run-up to this speech, or a short anecdote about the groom, who traditionally would have spoken just before you.
Introduce yourself as the best man
Obviously the bride and groom know who you are but introduce yourself for those who don’t. This is a great opportunity to give some insight into what it’s like to be the best man, how it’s an honour and pay some compliments to the bride and the bridesmaids. Anything about how beautiful they look is a sure fire way to set the bride and her family at ease.
Best man speech jokes
Next, focus unashamedly on the groom and funnies. You’ll be talking about your relationship with the groom, but remember to keep your best man speech about the groom and not you, as it’s his wedding day and the focus should always be on him.
Speaking about the groom is the main part of your best man speech so it’s a great chance to build up the comedy value and regale the audience with funny anecdotes and amusing asides about the groom. As well as the best man speech jokes, remember to throw in some lines about what a great guy he is as well…
The wedding day
Once you’ve exhausted all your jokes and comedy material about you and the groom, you’ll want to move onto the wedding day itself. Highlight the effort that’s gone into the day and make sure you pay particular attention to the contribution of the bride’s parents – after all there’s a decent chance they paid for it!
Focus on the bride
Now turn your attention to the bride. Obviously, you’re not going to start poking fun at her as the last thing you want to do is upset or embarrass her on her big day. Instead, now is the time to say how beautiful she looks and how lucky the groom is to have found her.
Focus on the couple
It may be the best man’s job to make everyone laugh but you’ll need to have some serious notes to your speech as well. Now is the time to talk about how amazing the bride and groom are as a couple and how happy everyone is to see them together.
Here you might want to talk about love in general or if you have a memory about the groom’s first impression of the bride, that’s likely to make the audience cry, then this is the time!
The best man’s toast
The ending of the best man speech is where you summarise everything that you’ve covered. This is a great time to refer back to some earlier jokes for a few more laughs and you may want to leave your best jokes until now to ensure your speech ends on a happy note.
Feel free to offer some advice to the happy couple, wish them all the best and ask the wedding guests to join you in raising a glass to the bride and groom…
Best man speech example
How to make your best man speech funny
Don’t pressure yourself to transform into a stand-up comic overnight. The biggest mistake a best man can make with his speech is to imitate a favourite comedian or style the speech to what the thinks will make the wedding guests laugh.
Steer clear on best man one-liners unless of course you have a one-liner up your shirt sleeve that is utterly hilarious in the context of your speech – one-liners are just cringe otherwise.
Just deliver your best man speech from the heart about real experiences with the groom and your comedic moments will evolve and shine through naturally.
If you’re going for a funny best man speech, just ensure you deliver that punch line with clarity and don’t pre-empt the laughter in your head as this always takes the edge off any big reveal. It will just be awkward if you laugh at your own jokes before the audience!
In general, a best man speech should be kept to about five minutes or less. This is enough time to say something funny as well as meaningful but not so long that your audience gets antsy. But of course, you also should tailor your best man speech length to the event.
Best man speech tips
Professional speechwriter and founder of Great Speech Writing, Lawrence Bernstein, shares his tips on how to deliver a knock-out best man speech…
Remember your audience
Don’t write your speech for the boys on the stag do. Whilst some of your mates may be in stitches by you recounting the story of the Groom’s eyebrow being shaved off as he slept in a Majorcan golf buggy dressed in his Spider Man outfit, the rest of the guests are unlikely to be amused and you won’t get the laughs you’re hoping for.
When you’re thinking about what to put in your speech, it’s best to keep your material as universal as possible.
Avoid stand-alone jokes
This may sound odd; after all, this is the one speech where people expect jokes. But punch lines that fall flat can be a nightmare for any speaker, and there are plenty of ways to make people laugh without one.
Keep it clean(ish)
Avoid crude jokes, mentions of ex-girlfriends, anything that might insult guests and in particular the Bride!
Best man speeches have a reputation for being a bit saucy, but it’s easy to go too far. Don’t judge a potential story or joke on whether you find it funny, but on whether your audience will be offended by it.
Pick a best man speech theme
Anecdotes and observations are key elements of many speeches, but they don’t always link together naturally. Choosing a theme that ties everything together can help it flow and an original and amusing theme is often the difference between a decent speech and a great one.
Keep yourself separate
It’s tempting to focus your speech on your own relationship with the Groom. But if you labour the point too heavily, it can start to sound like narcissism and be very boring for everyone else.
Keep the best man speech short
I strongly recommend you limit specific anecdotes to a maximum of two or three sentences each. Keeping the best man speech short and snappy will hold people’s attention, and if a story isn’t working, you can move swiftly on.
Fathers of the brides are no longer shackled by out-dated etiquette but there’s certainly more pressure on you dads to be funny. Here, the Speechy experts reveal the new father of the bride speech rules.
Father of The Bride Speech Rules For 2018
The biggest trap fathers fall into is thinking they need to thank people. That’s actually the groom’s job. That said, it pays to mention your daughter’s new in-laws and you should acknowledge the role the bride’s mother has had in her upbringing.
If you’ve split up from your daughter’s mother and you both have new partners, the politics of your speech can be more complex. Of course, the situation is the hardest for your daughter, so even if the relationship between you and your ex is strained, try to be generous in your acknowledgement of your daughter’s mum and step-dad.
Do NOT get sucked into thanking the venue, the caterers or people who’ve travelled far. It’s not your day and, quite frankly, too many thank yous becomes boring. Remember the bridesmaids will be thanked by the groom (and maybe even the best man) so keep your gratitude succinct (and dance with them later).
Do your research
Gather your intel and call in back up.
Get other family members round a table and brainstorm. Think about the great (and funny) times you’ve shared with your daughter. Think about her why she makes you laugh. We guarantee your daughter’s siblings will be a great source of material, as well as her mum.
It’s also worth asking your daughter to give you the low-down on who exactly is coming to the wedding. If you know her yoga buddies and the groom’s rugby mates will be there, it’s easier for you to select your stories and tailor your humour to suit.
Of course, increasingly there are guests who have English as their second language so be conscious not to alienate them with a speech full of wordplay.
Cut the clichés
All dads think their daughters are ‘talented’ and ‘beautiful’ so think about the unique qualities which make your girl a little bit wonderful.
No one wants a list of her career achievements or a rundown of her educational qualifications; they want recognition of the character traits which make her a great friend. Whether she’s gobby, a bit ditzy, or just a little bit nutty, celebrate your daughter for the awesome individual she is rather an idealised version of her.
These days, all speeches need to be entertaining and funny. You don’t have the-best-man-pressure but you still need to be making everyone chuckle from the get-go.
Of course being funny is not about finding wedding gags on Google. Being funny is about finding the right things to tease your daughter and son-in-law about – whether it’s their love of quinoa, their addiction to Game of Thrones or their inability to do any DIY without calling you first.
Prove, don’t tell
Rather than just say that you love your daughter, talk about the times that you’ve felt proud of her. Reference the moments that stand out and show how much she means to you.
Tell us about how you secretly cried after she left for Uni, explain how you couldn’t eat for a month whilst she backpacked through Asia. Confess that you still worry about her if she hasn’t texted you that day. We guarantee there will be tears.
Resist the urge to show off
Do NOT mention any financial contribution you’ve made towards the wedding – even in jest.
Remember the groom
Yes, your speech is all about your daughter but remember to be nice about her bloke too. Even if there are subtle reservations lurking in your soul, today is a day to celebrate his attributes, whatever they may be. Feel free to do a bit of gentle teasing (especially when you talk about your first encounter with him) but make sure it’s delivered with warmth.
Keep it short
You’re aiming for about six minutes. Remember no one ever witnessed a speech and said ‘if only it was longer’. Even if you feel you have loads of great material, be strict with yourself. Even Lincoln’s Gettysburg Address was only 272 words long!
Speechy can help you craft an awesome speech that will add a special moment to your daughter’s day.
This ultimate speech guide will give the best tips and tricks to help anyone overcome wedding speech nerves, not just in the way that you speak but in the way that you prepare your words, too. Speeches are one of the highlights during any wedding breakfast, so it is important to deliver the speech with clarity. This means taking your time, reading slowly and being confident.
But performing this mammoth task can be daunting at the best of times, and if you are not a confident speaker then it could pose a real problem. Luckily for you, Nicola Winslade, expert wedding coordinator at one of the finest wedding venues in Wiltshire, The Bishopstrow Hotel and Spa, is on hand to make sure your speeches are word perfect, helping you to overcome wedding speech nerves!
Take Your Time
If you are the groom, father of the bride or best man, then delivering the speech is a big deal and responsibility – so planning is essential. This is not your GCSE French oral exam, so don’t wing it! Take the time to plan and practise in advance.
Not Last Minute
It’s essential to sit down a couple of months before the big day to map out your ideas and any key moments or memories you wish to talk about during the speech. Having a clear plan in your head will help you feel at ease and, the further in advance you begin planning, the more comfortable and familiar you will be with the material. The only thing that you want to watch out for here is that things don’t become too rehearsed. No robot speeches, thank you very much!
Keep It Brief
Traditionally there are three speeches: the groom, best man and father of the bride, with brides and bridesmaids also saying a few words now too. Three speeches doesn’t sound like much, but if each of you prattles on for too long, then your audience is going to lose interest fairly quickly. You want to keep the wedding party engaged and listening for the entire duration of your speech, so try not to be longer than 10 minutes. There’s nothing worse than an endless wedding speech, so don’t be that person!
Time it Right
Speeches traditionally take place after the wedding breakfast, but these days more couples are choosing to get them in the bag early. Raising a glass before the meal has two benefits – the impending dinner prevents speeches from rambling on, and it also means your nerves have passed in time to relax and enjoy the food!
It can be intimidating to know that your audience is going to be made up of close friends and family because they will actually want to listen to you, unlike colleagues who are, more often than not, politely disinterested in what you have to say. Even if public speaking isn’t your forte, you will only have one wedding day or may only be a best man once, so it really is important to give it your all. Just imagine everyone in their underwear – that’s the age-old trick, right?
Don’t leave going through your speech to the last minute. Practise your speech at home a number of times until you can remember the majority of it without glancing at your notes. If it helps, imagine you’re going to be graded. You want that A+, so strive for it!
Bring Cue Cards
Like your teachers always used to say at school, try not to read your speech word for word like it is a script. Make eye contact with your audience and prompt yourself using your cue cards. If visual prompts are more your style, then you can include a colour code, or even pictures to help jog your memory.
Steady Your Nerves
As difficult as it sounds, even if you are petrified about public speaking, try not to show your nerves to the audience. The speeches are usually after the wedding breakfast, so you will have a chance to grab a cheeky drink beforehand if you need a little Dutch courage. Another helpful trick is to choose a few key audience members, ones that you know well, and make them your ‘anchors’ for the duration of your speech. These will be the people with whom you make eye contact throughout the speech – it’s always reassuring to get a nod of approval or a subtle thumbs-up from a friendly face.
Whether you are reminiscing about an embarrassing story, or sharing a joke about a family member, laughter is the key to success and will make the speech memorable for weeks to come. Channel your inner Hugh Grant from Four Weddings and a Funeral – he nailed it.
Know Your Audience
This is especially pertinent if you are the best man. You may not be familiar with everyone in the wedding party, so keep the speech PG to ensure that nobody takes offence!
Closing the Speech
Raise a glass to the happy couple and conclude your speech with a toast to the couple and something snappy that will be remembered. Stay clear of cliches, you don’t want to finish on something lacklustre.
Whether you’re the groom, best man or the father of the bride, or if you have just been asked to make a speech at your friend’s big day, don’t fret! These hilarious wedding speeches will give you some much-needed inspiration to make your wedding speech funny…
10 Hilarious Wedding Speeches
Best Maid of Honour Toast (Eminem rap)
Bridesmaid Jennifer Gabrielli delivers what may be the best surprise toast by any member of the wedding party, ever. How’s this for a hilarious wedding speech?
Funny Best man Speech
Delivering hit after hit of hilarious knockout one-liners, this best man certainly knows how to keep the guests entertained!
Funny Father of the Bride Speech
Father of the bride gives an outstanding speech. Expect lots of humour, and advice that will never be forgotten. This speech is a must-watch and it will have you laughing from the start.
A Pilot’s Wedding Speech
Capt Matthew Krivohlavy was unable to attend the nuptials of his brother Brandon and his fiancée in Texas. So instead, he made a two-and-a-half-minute video from the cockpit of his Harrier using flash cards to express his thoughts. It reduced the wedding party to tears and we think it will get you blubbing too!
Touching Wedding Speech by the Father of the Bride
This father of the bride gives the new husband a few words of advice when he gives his daughter away. Phillip’s definitely got some big shoes to fill!
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The Younger Brother Wedding Speech
Don’t ever ask your little brother to be your best man. Clark did this and he got thoroughly embarrassed with some hilarious childhood stories.
Man of Honour Wedding Speech
This musical number was done by Amy’s man of honour. You definitely need to watch this!
The Younger Brother Best man Speech
This is another reason why you shouldn’t ask your younger brother to be the best man. Cringe…
Tom Fletcher’s Groom speech
We couldn’t do a list of amazing wedding speeches without including this musical groom’s speech from McFly’s Tom Fletcher.
Top Tips for Writing a Wedding Speech
Follow this expert advice and make sure guests remember your speech for all the right reasons…
Keep it short
Make sure your speech is no more than 10 minutes long, which on paper is about 1,000 words. Time yourself when you’re rehearsing and make sure you’re speaking slowly.
Managing the nerves
If the big moment has arrived and you’re feeling terrified, ask the people at the back of the room if they can hear you. It’s an old trick, but it allows you to get those first few words out. The result will draw a response from the crowd and should help you settle.
Humour versus sincerity
Too many Best men write their wedding speeches with a bunch of friends over a few beers. This can be fun at the time but often results in a speech high on stories and innuendo but low on sincerity. Strike a balance. The audience will enjoy some jokes at the groom’s expense, but try to demonstrate he is a good friend with some decent qualities.
Avoid a long list of thank yous
Nothing can be more dull or unoriginal than a speech that resembles a school register of thanks. Stick to those who really need a mention.
End with a toast
This is a great opportunity to end on a sincere and touching note. If you’re the father of the bride or best man, toast the couple. If you’re a groom, toast your new wife.
When it comes to wedding speeches, it’s important to know who speaks when on the big day. We asked speech writing coach Lawrence Bernstein to give us the breakdown of the running order
When it comes to delivering your wedding speech, there’s so much more to it than planning what you want to say. Who, traditionally, is supposed to speak first? Who introduces the best man? And who toasts the bridesmaids?
However, it’s actually becoming more common for the bride and groom to create their own running order to suit their particular situation. A bride’s father might be absent, for example, or the bride herself may want to speak.
So, before you read the traditional running order below, remember that you can rejig it if you want to – this is just a loose guide.
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It’s increasingly common for the groom to speak first, particularly if he and the bride are hosting the wedding.
If there’s no father of the bride, someone else might speak in his place – a friend of the family, a bridesmaid or the bride herself.
Of course, as the roles change, so does the content of the speeches. But it doesn’t have to be confusing – so long as you are familiar with your particular running order, you’ll be fine.
Traditional running order
Father of the bride
Traditionally, the father of the bride speaks first, often before dinner. He welcomes the guests, including the groom’s family, thanks everyone for coming, talks about his daughter and her new husband and toasts the happy couple.
The groom follows, often after dinner. He responds to the father of the bride’s toast, thanks the hosts and everyone else who has helped, say something about his new wife and toasts the bridesmaids.
The best man
The best man then responds to the groom’s toast. Traditionally he should talk about the groom, how he knows him, mention the bride and throw in a few embarrassing stories that will get a laugh.
So when the groom is planning and writing his speech, he may want to ask:
Who is speaking immediately before you? It might be the master of ceremonies, your father-in-law, or your bride.
How will they finish their speech? This will help you plan your own introduction, by referencing what they’ve just said.
Will they introduce you? Again, you’ll need to reference this at the beginning of your speech.
What sort of tone will they use? You don’t want to drastically – jarringly – change the tone.
How long will it be after their speech before you stand up?
What will they be talking about?
Once the groom has found out the answers to these questions, he can shape his speech around them. For example, if the bride’s father has died (hopefully not during the speeches!), he can use that as a link to a toast to absent friends.
If the bride is speaking after the groom, he could joke about her always having the last word. If the best man is speaking before the groom, it might be better for him toast the bridesmaids instead.
Occasionally, the content of wedding speeches can overlap. To avoid a disaster like this on your big day, the groom should check first with the father of the bride and best man and make sure they’re not intending to tell any of the same anecdotes.
There are lots of possibilities – have fun with them! Just make sure you know your place in the running order and everything will run smoothly.
Romantic quotes on love and marriage are great for your wedding day – they can fit in anywhere, from the speeches and readings to the decor, invitations, place names or table numbers…
Even if you don’t want to use the romantic quotes directly, they should at least inspire you and your husband-to-be to have a think about how much you love each other and what marriage means to the pair of you. Be inspired by these love quotes to use in your wedding readings…
27 of the Most Romantic Quotes to use in Your Wedding
“A great marriage is not when the ‘perfect couple’ comes together. It is when an imperfect couple learns to enjoy their differences.” Dave Meurer
“I love you, not only for what you are, but for what I am when I am with you. I love you, not only for what you have made of yourself but for what you are making of me.” Roy Croft
“Because to the depths of me, I long to love one person, With all my heart, my soul, my mind, my body…
Because I need a forever friend to trust with the intimacies of me, Who won’t hold them against me, Who loves me when I’m unlikable, Who sees the small child in me, and Who looks for the divine potential of me…
Because I need to cuddle in the warmth of the night With someone who thanks God for me, With someone I feel blessed to hold…
Because marriage means opportunity To grow in love, in friendship…
Because marriage is a discipline To be added to a list of achievements…
Because marriages do not fail, people fail When they enter into marriage Expecting another to make them whole…
Because, knowing this, I promise myself to take full responsibility For my spiritual, mental and physical wholeness I create me, I take half of the responsibility for my marriage Together we create our marriage…
Because with this understanding The possibilities are limitless.”
I will be here, by Steven Curtis Chapman
“If in the morning when you wake, If the sun does not appear, I will be here. If in the dark we lose sight of love, Hold my hand and have no fear, I will be here. I will be here, When you feel like being quiet, When you need to speak your mind I will listen. Through the winning, losing, and trying we’ll be together, And I will be here. If in the morning when you wake, If the future is unclear, I will be here. As sure as seasons were made for change, Our lifetimes were made for years, I will be here. I will be here, And you can cry on my shoulder, When the mirror tells us we’re older. I will hold you, to watch you grow in beauty, And tell you all the things you are to me. We’ll be together and I will be here. I will be true to the promises I’ve made, To you and to the one who gave you to me. I will be here.”
A Chinese wedding poem
“I want to be your friend For ever and ever without break or decay. When the hills are all flat And the rivers are all dry, When it lightens and thunders in winter, When it rains and snows in summer, When Heaven and Earth mingle Not ’til then will I part from you.”
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Blessing For A Marriage, by James Dillet Freeman
“May your marriage bring you all the exquisite excitements a marriage should bring, and may life grant you also patience, tolerance, and understanding.
May you always need one another — not so much to fill your emptiness as to help you to know your fullness. A mountain needs a valley to be complete. The valley does not make the mountain less, but more.
And the valley is more a valley because it has a mountain towering over it. So let it be with you and you. May you need one another, but not out of weakness. May you want one another, but not out of lack.
May you entice one another, but not compel one another. May you embrace one another, but not out encircle one another. May you succeed in all-important ways with one another, and not fail in the little graces.
May you look for things to praise, often say, “I love you!” and take no notice of small faults. If you have quarrels that push you apart, may both of you hope to have good sense enough to take the first step back.
May you enter into the mystery that is the awareness of one another’s presence — no more physical than spiritual, warm and near when you are side by side, and warm and near when you are in separate rooms or even distant cities.
May you have happiness, and may you find it making one another happy. May you have love, and may you find it loving one another.”
Sonnet 116, by William Shakespeare
“Let me not to the marriage of true minds Admit impediments. Love is not love Which alters when it alteration finds, Or bends with the remover to remove: O no; it is an ever-fixed mark, That looks on tempests, and is never shaken; It is the star to every wandering bark, Whose worth’s unknown, although his height be taken. Love’s not Time’s fool, though rosy lips and cheeks Within his bending sickle’s compass come; Love alters not with his brief hours and weeks, But bears it out even to the edge of doom. If this be error and upon me proved, I never writ, nor no man ever loved.”
He’s not perfect, by Bob Marley
“He’s not perfect. You aren’t either, and the two of you will never be perfect.
But if he can make you laugh at least once, causes you to think twice, and if he admits to being human and making mistakes, hold onto him and give him the most you can.
He isn’t going to quote poetry, he’s not thinking about you every moment, but he will give you a part of him that he knows you could break.
Don’t hurt him, don’t change him, and don’t expect for more than he can give. Don’t analyse. Smile when he makes you happy, yell when he makes you mad, and miss him when he’s not there.
Love hard when there is love to be had. Because perfect guys don’t exist, but there’s always one guy that is perfect for you.”