Bring Some fun Into Your day With These Quirky Wedding Readings

If you and your partner aren’t ones for tradition and are looking to inject a bit of fun into your wedding reception, why not use one of these quirky wedding readings. These quirky readings say all the right things but in a unique way, perfect for creative couples.

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Bring Some fun Into Your day With These Quirky Wedding Readings

There are plenty of poems and excerpts from thousands of books that talk about love, companionship, compromise and all the other aspects of marriage. But if you and your groom want something a little bit different to set your speech[1] apart from the crowd, these unconventional readings may be perfect!

A Lovely Love Story by Edward Monkton

The fierce Dinosaur was trapped inside his cage of ice. Although it was cold he was happy in there. It was, after all, HIS cage.

Then along came the Lovely Other Dinosaur.

The Lovely Other Dinosaur melted the Dinosaur’s cage with kind words and loving thoughts.

I like this Dinosaur, thought the Lovely Other Dinosaur. Although he is fierce he is also tender and he is funny. He is also quite clever though I will not tell him this for now.

I like this Lovely Other Dinosaur, thought the Dinosaur. She is beautiful and she is different and she smells so nice. She is also a free spirit, which is a quality I much admire in a dinosaur.

But he can be so distant and so peculiar at times, thought the Lovely Other Dinosaur.

He is also overly fond of Things. Are all Dinosaurs so overly fond of Things?

But her mind skips from here to there so quickly, thought the Dinosaur. She is also uncommonly keen on Shopping. Are all Lovely Other Dinosaurs so uncommonly keen on shopping?

I will forgive his peculiarity and his concern for things, thought the Lovely Other Dinosaur. For they are part of what makes him a richly charactered individual.

I will forgive her skipping mind and her fondness for shopping, thought the Dinosaur. For she fills our life with beautiful thought and wonderful surprises. Besides, I am not unkeen on shopping either.

Now the Dinosaur and the Lovely Other Dinosaur are old. Look at them.

Together they stand on the hill telling each other stories and feeling the warmth of the sun on their backs.

And that, my friends, is how it is with love. Let us all be Dinosaurs and Lovely Other Dinosaurs together.

For the sun is warm. And the world is a beautiful place…

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If you’re looking for a quirky poem to read aloud, then this one by John Cooper Clarke says it all.

I Wanna Be Yours by John Cooper Clarke

I wanna be your vacuum cleaner
breathing in your dust
I wanna be your Ford Cortina
I will never rust
If you like your coffee hot
let me be your coffee pot
You call the shots
I wanna be yours
I wanna be your raincoat
for those frequent rainy days
I wanna be your dreamboat
when you want to sail away
Let me be your teddy bear
take me with you anywhere
I don’t care
I wanna be yours
I wanna be your electric meter
I will not run out
I wanna be the electric heater
you’ll get cold without
I wanna be your setting lotion
hold your hair in deep devotion
Deep as the deep Atlantic ocean
that’s how deep is my devotion

That poem[2] is likely to raise a few laughs, so whoever is reciting it needs to pause for the giggles and then continue – take the words slowly and enjoy the entertainment it gives everybody!

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We think it’s wonderful if a pageboy or young bridesmaid gives a reading. The rule here is to keep it short and sweet. They get their moment in the spotlight but don’t have time to feel overwhelmed. They’ll also need to practise quite a bit beforehand and make sure you’ve chosen a child who isn’t likely to get stage fright at the last minute and refuse to speak. You’re looking for a confident type.

Remember the rule above of waiting for laughs and ask your young reader to stay in place for a few seconds afterwards to wait for the applause (which is sure to follow). This poem Some Things Go Together is a perfect short reading that’s quirky but thought-provoking too!

Some Things Go Together by Charlotte Zolotow

Pairs of things that go together.
Pigeons with park
Stars with dark
Sand with sea
and you with me.
… Hats with heads
Pillows with beds
Sky with blue
and me with you.


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What Your Bride Wants to Hear in Your Groom’s Speech

There’s a lot of pressure on the groom to write the perfect wedding speech. But what does your new wife really want to hear you say on your big day? We asked the experts at Great Speech Writing[1] to hand over their top tips.

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What Your Bride Wants to Hear in Your Groom’s Speech

You popped the question, the date’s set, the venue’s booked, invitations have been sent and the stag weekend is in hand. It’s just that minor detail of a groom’s speech still to be written. Keep your new wife happy on the big day with these tips.

Big up the Bride

Although it’s good practice to mention the best man and your ushers while poking fun at them at their expense, always remember that your wedding day is about your bond with your bride, not your best mates. Whatever you do, don’t spend the majority of your speech[2] reminiscing about your lads holiday – or you’ll have one unhappy bride.

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Thank Your new in-laws

If your bride chooses not to speak at the wedding, she probably won’t get the chance to thank her parents publicly for all they’ve done in helping to organise the big day, and for all the help, love and support provided over the years. So it’s down to you to do it for her – and she’ll love you for it.

She’s Your Wife – Don’t be shy Mentioning it!

Nothing gets more of heart-warming cheer than the line “my wife and I…”. It’s predictable and a little bit cheesy, but the novelty of hearing it for the first time never fails to make a new bride smile, or indeed every one of your guests.

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Using the occasional predictable phrase, as above, is fine, but don’t get too reliant on these one-liners, or your speech could easily sound like an internet cut and paste job. Your new bride wants you to talk about her, so be creative and keep it personal.

Mention her Looks

Dazzling, stunning, beautiful – however you wish to say it, make sure you comment on her appearance, and in a positive way. The expensive dress, designer jewellery[3], trips to the hairdressers, manicures and facials count for something!

Remember This is a Celebration of Love

It isn’t your chance to deliver a 10-minute comedy stand-up routine. So try to combine your witty one-liners with a good dose of sincerity. Why did you ask her to marry you? What is it about her that you adore? How has your life changed (for the better!) since you met her? Which of your bad habits does she have to live with?

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Delete all Stories of ex-girlfriends

Your new wife isn’t about your past, there’s a time and a place for mentioning the exes, and the groom’s speech[4] isn’t one of them.

Direct Your Speech to her

Although you’re giving a speech to, what is often, a large number of people, you don’t always have to talk to the room. It can be far more meaningful and personal if, when you’re talking about your wife, you actually speak to and make eye contact with her. But remember to keep projecting your voice. Your wife will want the guests to hear what you have to say about her, even if you’re not addressing them.

If you’re still concerned about how to keep your bride happy during the speech, then get in touch with Lawrence Bernstein from[5]. He and his team are always happy to give free advice, act as a sounding board, or edit the speech for you.


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A Valentine’s Proposal: How to Make a Declaration of Love

With Valentine’s Day 2019 nearly upon us, there’s no better time for brides-to-be to make a declaration of love. Here’s how to write your fiancé the best Valentine’s speech yet…

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A Valentine’s Proposal: How to Make a Declaration of Love

In past years, a trip to the Odeon, followed up with some dough balls at Pizza Express might have done the trick, but this one needs to count. If you’ll excuse our making some assumptions, it’s likely you’re a bride-to-be reading this article, and that your fiancé proposed[1] to you in a way that really put his heart on his sleeve. He left himself vulnerable and exposed. Not literally.

So how about using Valentines Day to return the favour? To say that loving something you never had the chance to prepare and to show him that he doesn’t have exclusive rights to bold, romantic gestures.

The one tip we would give any wannabe speech giver, is to be relevant. So what does relevance mean when you want to tell him you love him? It means saying it in a way that will mean something to him, because it’s in a language he understands. It is personal. So here are a few ideas to spark your Valentine’s declaration and get you writing. Just pick the character that sounds most like your husband, and start from there!

The Football Fan

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First things first, get your timing right. Switching off the Arsenal match at 60 minutes to pour him a glass of champagne and declare your undying love would simply demonstrate a lack of true understanding.

So ensure his mind isn’t elsewhere and tell him that you think you understand the way a true football fan feels leaving the stadium, feeling elated after their team has won a fabulous match. There’s a sense of excitement, a feeling of belonging, and a real belief that there are great times to come. And that’s the way you feel about him.

If that’s not enough, you could get really clever and ‘throw-in’ a pun or two to ‘substitute’ pure emotion for a funnier ‘point or three’.

The Bookworm

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You could writing a romantic novella in which you and your man live happily every after. But failing that, why not keep it simple? One option would be to take one of his favourite novels (ideally a love story), and use it to show your true feelings. Perhaps you found it boring the first time you read the book[2]. You didn’t get it. Maybe the romance felt over the top, and the lengths to which the protagonists went to be together were simply hard to believe. Tell him that you were wrong. That you couldn’t relate with Gatsby, or Anna Karenina, or Mr Darcy, Cathy, or Jane Eyre, because you’d never felt what they had. Until now.

Of course, best to make sure you’ve both read the novel in question (if you haven’t, do some research so you can blag it convincingly)! If you can find a quote that captures how you feel, all the better.

The Techie

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Chances are you’re saving the new soldering kit for his next birthday. In which case, let’s stick with words. As with the above examples, the key is to speak in a language he would best understand. In this case, why not Javascript? C++? PERL? If those mean nothing to you, don’t worry: they mean nothing to us either. And if you don’t fancy learning to code before the 14th, there is another viable option: English.

If you want to stick to a card, you might consider saying that your heart has been hacked, the code of love has been cracked (you get the idea), and sign it ‘Anonymous’. Please don’t refer to ‘compatibility issues’ which may scare him despite working perfectly on paper.

The Film Buff

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Short of nicking a romantic monologue from one of his favourite movies[3] , the next best option would be take a classic love story and update it to your lives. Let’s take Casablance, for example. For Isla, the impossible choice she faces is between the man she loves (Rick), and the cause she believes in (Lazlo).

Why not tell your fiance how lucky you feel when you watch Casablanca, because to you, he is both Rick and Lazlo. Or that to when you watch Bridget Jones, you realise he is both Hugh Grant and Colin Firth. Both Rhett and Ashley to your Scarlett O’Hara. Both Mrs Robinson and daughter to your Dustin Hoffman. You get the gist. The possibilities are endless!

The Foodie

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He might turn his nose up at a suggestion to eat at Pizza Express, but a well-worded, food[4]-centric declaration of love is a sure-fire way to impress. Depending on what really gets his mouth watering (food-wise, that is), you could prepare a few words that take one of your favourite, and season it with a sprinkling of romance. Maybe he is like the perfect steak: tender, rare, well-aged, lean, and well hung.

Alternatively, you could concoct a recipe for ‘the perfect man’, using a list of his unique qualities as an ingredient list, and his life story as preparation instructions: cook in Northampton for 18 years, before removing and letting sit in Newcastle for 3 years. Place in London for another 7 years, until perfect, contented, and engaged[5]!

Final Thoughts

There is no golden rule for romantic declarations of love, but if you’ve taken away one thing from this article, it’s the importance of relevance. Of finding that unique perspective, that unorthodox, completely personal approach that will show how much you love him. Not the idea of loving him. Not the idea of romance itself, but him. For all his quirks, flaws, and idiosyncrasies. It’s so easy to say I love you, but rarely easy to explain why. If you can, however, he will never, ever forget it.

What next?

Hopefully this gets Valentine’s Day off to a good start. But there is a more auspicious opportunity to come. A day when you can say all this in full – and let your friends and family hear what you feel. Yes, you can become part of an ever-growing bunch of brides[6] who speak at their wedding. They key there isn’t just to be relevant, but original too. To say something that your guests will never have heard before, and that is totally different from what the other speakers will cover on the day.

Words by: Laura Bolshaw


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5 Real Speeches to Make Your Guests Laugh

Ready to raise your glass to word-perfect wedding speeches? Do you want the whole room to be roaring with laughter or holding back happy tears? One thing’s for certain: you don’t want your speeches to be a flop. Take inspiration from five real speeches to make your guests laugh. If these couples can nail their wedding speeches, you can do too.

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5 Real Speeches to Make Your Guests Laugh

Surprise songs from the best men

Even though they opted for a laid-back wedding, Alexa and Jamie were happy to have the traditional speeches too. The best men and a good friend ensured that tradition went out of the window, however, when they then became a fantastic band and sang a couple of hilarious songs about Jamie and Alexa.

Furthermore, they had only practised once or twice in the back of a van prior to the wedding. The whole party loved the thoughtful chorus.

Video messages and perfect poetry

When Sally and Martin married, the bride’s mother read a wedding-related poem, ‘He’s Not Perfect’ by Bob Marley, as a speech.

“She read it out to me in the morning while I was getting ready and had the whole party in tears. I asked her to read it again before the speeches!”

Sally’s brother Jack couldn’t make the big day, so as a surprise he recorded Mcfly’s ‘It’s All About You’.

“A projector displayed his singing, which was accompanied by photographs of me and Martin from over the years,” remembers Sally.

“I’d managed to hold back the tears all day until this point!”

Bride’s speech

For Jaime and Blake, the speeches kicked off with Jaime’s mum and brother doing a joint speech with loving stories and childhood memories. Blake gave a heartfelt speech.

“He left no one out and really honoured me and our families,” smiles Jaime.

“I spoke last, I felt it was important to say thank you to everyone that made the day so perfect for us.

“Our wedding day also fell on the same day that we held my dad’s memorial service eight years ago, under those same flat-grown trees on the farm. It was a great way to honour his memory and bring him alive on our big day.”

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Prizegivings, heartfelt words and howling laughter

A twist on tradition, Jess decided to give a short speech herself, thanking the bridesmaids, best men and her parents. In place of wedding favours this fun loving couple arranged a duck bobbing competition. Jess announced the winners and gave out the prizes during her speech, before the men the stepped in with their own.

Jess says,

“Jordy did an incredible speech that was very emotional and heartfelt, I felt so proud of him. My dad did a great job of making everyone laugh and cry and Matt,
Jordan’s best man, had the whole room howling with laughter to finish!”

Silly hats and embarrassing photos

Finally, the two best men at Natalie and Kieth’s wedding brought props along to their speech.

“The speeches were very entertaining, involving everyone in the room putting on silly hats that they had secretly brought with them. 

“There were embarrassing photos of us as children and a very emotional speech from Keith,” says Natalie.

The two best men finished with a joint speech, including funny anecdotes with lots of references to Keith’s love of useless information and random facts too.


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Best man speech examples, template ideas, jokes and everything you need to know

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The best man speech is usually the most eagerly awaited of all the wedding speeches – so if you’ve been tasked with writing a funny best man speech, here’s some best man speech examples, template ideas and tips on how to structure, write and deliver a knockout best man speech…

The best man’s speech outline and template – what to include in your best man speech…

  • Have a killer opening line and introduce yourself as the best man
  • Thank the other speakers (the father-of-the-bride, the groom etc)
  • Make a joke about the groom or tell a short story about the groom thats funny
  • Compliment the bride
  • Congratulate the happy couple
  • Read messages from guests who couldn’t make it, if there are any
  • Speak about love, quote a few famous lines or a poem
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Best man speech ideas and structure

Best man speech opening lines

First and foremost, get everyone’s attention and set an amusing tone for your best man speech with a comical opening line or icebreaker – this could be something funny about your own ordeal in the run-up to this speech, or a short anecdote about the groom, who traditionally would have spoken just before you.[1]

Introduce yourself as the best man

Obviously the bride and groom know who you are but introduce yourself for those who don’t. This is a great opportunity to give some insight into what it’s like to be the best man, how it’s an honour and pay some compliments to the bride and the bridesmaids. Anything about how beautiful they look is a sure fire way to set the bride and her family at ease.

Best man speech jokes

Next, focus unashamedly on the groom and funnies. You’ll be talking about your relationship with the groom, but remember to keep your best man speech about the groom and not you, as it’s his wedding day and the focus should always be on him.

Speaking about the groom is the main part of your best man speech so it’s a great chance to build up the comedy value and regale the audience with funny anecdotes and amusing asides about the groom. As well as the best man speech jokes, remember to throw in some lines about what a great guy he is as well…

The wedding day

Once you’ve exhausted all your jokes and comedy material about you and the groom, you’ll want to move onto the wedding day itself. Highlight the effort that’s gone into the day and make sure you pay particular attention to the contribution of the bride’s parents – after all there’s a decent chance they paid for it!

Focus on the bride

Now turn your attention to the bride. Obviously, you’re not going to start poking fun at her as the last thing you want to do is upset or embarrass her on her big day. Instead, now is the time to say how beautiful she looks and how lucky the groom is to have found her.

Focus on the couple

It may be the best man’s job to make everyone laugh but you’ll need to have some serious notes to your speech as well. Now is the time to talk about how amazing the bride and groom are as a couple and how happy everyone is to see them together.

Here you might want to talk about love in general or if you have a memory about the groom’s first impression of the bride, that’s likely to make the audience cry, then this is the time!

The best man’s toast

The ending of the best man speech is where you summarise everything that you’ve covered. This is a great time to refer back to some earlier jokes for a few more laughs and you may want to leave your best jokes until now to ensure your speech ends on a happy note.

Feel free to offer some advice to the happy couple, wish them all the best and ask the wedding guests to join you in raising a glass to the bride and groom…

Best man speech example

How to make your best man speech funny

Don’t pressure yourself to transform into a stand-up comic overnight. The biggest mistake a best man can make with his speech is to imitate a favourite comedian or style the speech to what the thinks will make the wedding guests laugh.

Steer clear on best man one-liners unless of course you have a one-liner up your shirt sleeve that is utterly hilarious in the context of your speech – one-liners are just cringe otherwise.

Just deliver your best man speech from the heart about real experiences with the groom and your comedic moments will evolve and shine through naturally.

If you’re going for a funny best man speech, just ensure you deliver that punch line with clarity and don’t pre-empt the laughter in your head as this always takes the edge off any big reveal. It will just be awkward if you laugh at your own jokes before the audience!

For more on how to make your best man speech funny, see our tried-and-tested best man jokes here.[2]

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How long should a best man speech be?

In general, a best man speech should be kept to about five minutes or less. This is enough time to say something funny as well as meaningful but not so long that your audience gets antsy. But of course, you also should tailor your best man speech length to the event.

Best man speech tips

Professional speechwriter and founder of Great Speech Writing[3], Lawrence Bernstein, shares his tips on how to deliver a knock-out best man speech…

Remember your audience

Don’t write your speech for the boys on the stag do. Whilst some of your mates may be in stitches by you recounting the story of the Groom’s eyebrow being shaved off as he slept in a Majorcan golf buggy dressed in his Spider Man outfit, the rest of the guests are unlikely to be amused and you won’t get the laughs you’re hoping for.

When you’re thinking about what to put in your speech, it’s best to keep your material as universal as possible.

Avoid stand-alone jokes

This may sound odd; after all, this is the one speech where people expect jokes. But punch lines that fall flat can be a nightmare for any speaker, and there are plenty of ways to make people laugh without one.

Keep it clean(ish)

Avoid crude jokes, mentions of ex-girlfriends, anything that might insult guests and in particular the Bride!

Best man speeches have a reputation for being a bit saucy, but it’s easy to go too far. Don’t judge a potential story or joke on whether you find it funny, but on whether your audience will be offended by it.

Pick a best man speech theme

Anecdotes and observations are key elements of many speeches, but they don’t always link together naturally. Choosing a theme that ties everything together can help it flow and an original and amusing theme is often the difference between a decent speech and a great one.

Keep yourself separate

It’s tempting to focus your speech on your own relationship with the Groom. But if you labour the point too heavily, it can start to sound like narcissism and be very boring for everyone else.

Keep the best man speech short

I strongly recommend you limit specific anecdotes to a maximum of two or three sentences each. Keeping the best man speech short and snappy will hold people’s attention, and if a story isn’t working, you can move swiftly on.

For more tips on speech writing from Lawrence, visit:[4].


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How to Write a Flawless Father of the Bride Speech

If you want to know how to write a flawless father of the bride speech for your daughter on her wedding day, we’ve teamed up with wedding co-ordinator at The Bishopstrow Hotel & Spa,[1] Liz Ballinger,[2] for some father of the bride[3] speech tips and advice.

These father of the bride speeches are sure to bring a tear to the eye, for all the right reasons…


How to Write a Flawless Father of the Bride Speech

Traditionally, at the reception, the bride’s father[4] is the first one to make a speech to the wedding guests. The father of the bride is usually seen as a bit of a warm-up act, and something to be endured rather than enjoyed. However, with a little effort you can make sure your moment in the spotlight is something to be remembered.

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What to Include in Your Father of the Bride Speech

Whether it’s short and sweet or a moment to enjoy the spotlight, your father of the speech needs to contain some basic elements. That’s if it is to be in keeping with tradition. Here’s a simple father of the bride speech template to follow…

Father of the Bride Speech Template

The intro

You need to introduce yourself, but it doesn’t have to be reminiscent of an AA meeting. Tell them your name and maybe crack a small joke to make yourself feel relaxed.

The welcome

Make a formal welcome to everyone, and thank them for coming. Try to also mention the bride’s mother and the groom’s parents too.

Your daughter

She’s made you pay for it and now’s your chance to get a little of your own back on her. Recall a funny anecdote or simply tell her how proud you are of the woman she’s become. This is her big day, so say something memorable and touching.

Your son-in-law

Formally welcome the groom to your family. You can mention how you felt about him when you first met him, or a moment when you’ve been particularly glad he’s around. Try to be positive about the future and moving forward with him as a family member.

Parting wisdom

As the elder speaker at the wedding, you should impart some of your wisdom to the happy couple. This could be about maintaining a healthy marriage or living a happy life. This is also a good place to throw in some jokes, however, err on the side of tasteful. You don’t want to upset anyone.

The toast

Finish up by asking everyone to stand and raise a glass to the happy couple. The best man will do something similar at the end of his speech too, but it’s the traditional way to close yours.

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Tips for Making Your Father of the Bride Speech Funny

The father of the bride might be a gentleman, but that doesn’t mean your speech has to be dull. Here are some top tips to make it as enjoyable as possible for everyone involved.

Timing is everything

Fathers of the bride have been known to drone on for some time. However, to keep things fun, engaging aim for a speech that lasts around six to seven minutes. Also read your speech through at your normal speaking pace to gauge how long this really is.

Keep it clean

Jokes are a great way to break the ice and loosen up the crowd. However, don’t be too focused on being funny. You’re the elder statesman of the speakers today, so you can afford to be a bit more conservative with your words.

That doesn’t mean you have to be dull though. A few jibes at the expense of the wedding or your daughter’s love of spending are fine, just don’t cut too close to the bone. Leave it to the best man to really roast up the groom[5], and focus on welcoming your new son-in-law to the family.

Hold on to your emotions

This is such a big occasion for you and all your family, it can be easy to get caught up in the emotion of it all. Do you best to keep things light and happy, as nobody likes to see a grown man in tears. If there are some things you would like to say to your daughter, have a quiet word with her before you walk the aisle.

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The last word

Ask any public speaker what their biggest fear is and they’ll often say it’s losing their place. Fumbling over your words and getting lost is nothing to be ashamed of, provided you can make a recovery.

Take your speech on cue cards with bullet-pointed reminders of what you want to talk about. This will give you a more natural delivery and will save you fluttering to find your place.

If you do get stuck, use a moment to clear your throat, take a drink of water or give your daughter a kiss. These moments might seem a lifetime to you but will feel like a natural pause to your audience.

This will also give you the breathing space you need to get things back on track. Take your time, don’t panic and try to enjoy your moment of fame.

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We’ve also got more tips for other members of the bridal party too – from groom speech ideas[6] to bridesmaid duties[7] and best man duties[8].


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