5 Steps To Choosing The Right Wedding Photographer

When choosing your wedding photographer, you want to ensure they create the wedding album you’ve always dreamed of. We’ve spoken to the professionals to get some key insight on how to find the right wedding photographer. 

bride and groom choosing the right wedding photographerCredit: Jay Rowden Photography

5 Steps To Choosing The Right Wedding Photographer 

Your wedding photographer should capture every detail of your big day. From your place card holders to your hair accessories and your makeup applications, it’s your photographer’s responsibility to capture it all. This way, you don’t have to rely completely on memory.

We firmly believe in investing in the right wedding photographer as your photos are one of the most important aspects of your big day. We asked master photographer, Jay Rowden[1], for some expert tips for the bride and groom when it came to booking a photographer.

1. It pays to have the best 

While you can get a good deal with a photographer who’s new to the industry, you do need to find someone you trust to get it right. Perfection comes with experience. 

“It sounds obvious but nail down your photography budget before reaching out to wedding photographers.” Says Jay Rowden.

“Be prepared to break the bank if you find a photographer whose work you really love”. 

laughing groom and best man choosing the right wedding photographerCredit: Jay Rowden Photography

2. Browse your photographer’s portfolio

Look through the portfolio of any photographer you’re considering. You won’t just be looking for examples of the weddings they’ve captured. You’ll also be looking at their different styles and approaches. When you find the photos that resonate with you, you’ve found your style and photographer.

“Before you meet your favourite photographer, ask them to bring along a few sample albums of their work,” Says Jay Rowden.

3. Decide on the right style 

A professional photographer distinguishes all the subtleties of shooting a wedding. They’ll know exactly when to photograph your groom as he first sees you walking down the aisle, how to achieve the perfect confetti shot, and what to do in the event of rain. A creative and flexible approach often results in the most breathtaking and brilliant wedding photographs.

“Decide what style you’re after, Says Jay Rowden, “[Be it] documentary, fine art, natural, contemporary, traditional”.

bride and groom by the sea choosing the right wedding photographerCredit: Jay Rowden Photography

4. Create a detailed action plan

Everything from your chosen venue to the time of year will affect your wedding photographs. If you’ve got your heart set on certain shots, like couple’s portraits at sunset or a sparkler send-off photo, then you need to talk it through with your photographer. 

More often than not, your photographer will offer a pre-wedding shoot to help you both gauge what kind of shots you want. It makes taking the photos on your big day that bit quicker and more efficient.

buttoning up the wedding dress choosing the right wedding photographerCredit: Jay Rowden Photography

5. Make sure you’ve both done your homework

“Make sure you do your homework on photographers. Draw up a list of your three favourite photographers.” Says Jay.

“Then properly review their websites and blogs, check out the socials for their latest work and make sure you look at feedback”. 

This way, you have a firm idea of what kind of photography style you’ll receive and you can help pull together some ideas of what shots you want. You can scope out the quality and the range of skills your photographer has.

The last thing you want is to fork out all that money on your wedding day and not have some fantastic photos to look back on.


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9 tips for planning a stand out, luxurious engagement party

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You’re engaged! Make the most of this exciting time by celebrating with an engagement party

After the excitement of getting engaged many couples look forward to celebrating their special news with their family and friends. Vicki Morris, founder of luxury wedding event and experience brand Two Became One[1] is no stranger to organising a show-stopping party, and has put together her top tips on how to organise a party to be remember…

1. Decide who will host the party

Traditionally it’s the bride’s mother, or a member of the bride’s extended family, but perhaps it’s you and your fiancé? Or, you could always have two parties; one hosted by the bride’s family and one by the groom’s parents. If it’s anyone other than you and your fiancé, expect the hosts to have an input on the date of the party and the location – which may well be your hometown rather than current place of residence. And, whoever does host should traditionally make a speech at the party itself – a signature moment of the event.

2. Work out your budget

The budget is a key factor in determining the type of party you can have and where you can hold it so it’s important to understand this upfront; you’ll need to cover venue hire, catering, drinks and invitations. A smaller budget doesn’t mean you have to have a ‘budget’ party – by crafting your guest list and catering requirements to suit your event you can still have a luxurious party. For example, switch a formal sit-down meal for canapés and champagne cocktails.

3. Carefully consider the guest list

Consider very carefully who to include. Anyone invited to the engagement party will expect an invite to the wedding, so don’t get carried away. If you are not the hosts, expect them to have an input on who to include. If necessary, invite friends or colleagues who may not make the ‘cut’ for the big day to celebrate with you separately on a more informal scale.

READ MORE: 1 in 4 engaged couples argue about who to include in their wedding party[2]

4. Set a date

Choose a date that works for you and your closest friends and family and decide how long you want to wait between the engagement and the celebration. Wait a few weeks before announcing a date to give you a chance to reveal the engagement first and let everyone know the great news. You want everyone to know you are planning on tying the knot, then give them something else to get excited about!

5. Decide on the venue and the menu

Choose a place that works with your theme and ideas. Do you want a lavish top hotel in the centre of the city, or would you prefer a restaurant overlooking the beach? You could even consider a venue totally off the scale, like an art gallery or the top of the Shard. Think about where you’d like your wedding to take place too and keep your engagement party distinctively different. As much as you want this party to be the party of the year, you don’t want to upstage the main event!

6. Send out the invitations – and don’t forget to add a dress code!

Give your guests plenty of time to reply as this may be a determining factor for your entertainment and food; you may even want to wait until you know the numbers to reveal the location, so you can plan the venue more appropriately. If you are planning a lavish engagement party, ensure your guests know it and don’t be afraid to tell them. You don’t want them turning up casual, when you have put so much effort into a lavish event! This can be obvious by your invitations, but it’s worth stating. And don’t you forget to dress to impress – select something that will wow, but won’t upstage your wedding gown. Equally, let them know what to expect food wise. If you’re having drinks and canapés, tell them, or if it’s a luxury afternoon tea and cake in the garden make that clear too.

7. Decorate the venue space

If you are having a sit-down meal, then consider the table fabrics, the flowers, the centrepieces – you could create a mood board to get your ideas down first. If you are thinking champagne and canapés, put more focus on the room and how you’d like it decorated. Check our Pinterest for some fantastic party inspiration – flowers, lights, candles or seasonally themed ideas will all make the party stand out.

8. Designate roles and responsibilities

Assign roles and responsibilities ahead of the event. Who will make formal introductions between guests that don’t know each other? Who will make the first (and subsequent) toast? Guests may bring you engagement gifts, so ask someone to take responsibility for them. If you’re not having a formal photographer think about asking a couple of trusted guests to capture the evening on film for you.

9. Decide on the entertainment

Nothing says ‘party’ like good music! Choose the entertainment to match the theme – if you’re after elegance, perhaps choose classic, acoustic sounds, but if it’s dancing you want, opt for a band to get everyone on the dancefloor.

READ MORE: What are the gifts that engaged couples really want?[3]

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Wedding stationery: Everything you need to know

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Want to please your guests? When it comes to wedding stationery[1], it turns out that over half of guests prefer to receive a handwritten invitation

New research by Royal Mail has highlighted just how important the written word is – post is still the preferred way for the bride and groom to communicate with their guests. Of those questioned, 52% of guests prefer receiving a physical invite to all wedding-related events; from the save the date to the post-wedding thank you note. Many like to receive an invitation as it means they can display it in their home.

Etiquette expert Jo Bryant extolls the virtues of a handwritten note. “In our fast-paced digital age, beautifully designed and worded invitations and letters received by post have never made more of an impact. Add the sense of excitement that a wedding brings, and it is clear to see why the written word is still everyone’s favourite method of communication for such a milestone event.”

READ MORE: How to tell guests that children aren’t invited to your wedding[2]

When it comes to written wedding etiquette, here are some of Jo’s top tips:

She said yes!

Engagement parties[3] are held as soon as is practical and convenient after the proposal. Everyone who is invited should also be on the wedding guest list, so think carefully before you send out the party invitations.


It is convenient for guests to receive save-the-date cards[4] so they can plan accordingly. For UK weddings, send them around six months in advance; for destination weddings, give guests 10–12 months’ notice.


The wedding invitation gives your guests a first glimpse of the look and feel of the wedding; make sure your stationery reflects the style of the day. It is sophisticated and practical to keep all your wedding stationery consistent not only in design, but also in the formality and style of the wording.

Important info

Remember, invitations are important documents, providing guests with all the key information: location, timings, RSVP details and sometimes a dress code.

Be prepared

Order spares of all your stationery to allow for mishaps and mistakes – don’t forget, too, that you will want to keep a copy of everything as a keepsake.


Choose the best quality card possible for your invitations. Guests may put them on display at home (for example on the mantelpiece, kitchen pinboard etc), and will refer back to them before and on the big day.

Inky impressions

Write invitations, thank you letters and envelopes in proper ink. Black or blue is traditional but, if it suits your style of stationery, make a statement with a more contemporary colour.


Writing lots of invitations and envelopes can be tiring, so approach the task in small batches to avoid mistakes. Double-check tricky spellings and, if possible, find out the names of guests’ partners rather than writing ‘and guest’.

Top titles

Guests’ names are written in the top left-hand corner of the save-the-date cards and invitations, unless there is a dedicated space/line for them.

READ MORE: How to write the perfect wedding card message[5]

Admin wise

Keep a detailed log of who has received invitations and who has sent a reply. It is surprisingly easy to get in a muddle, which only adds to the planning stress.

Evening extras

If the venue is very small, more guests can be invited to the evening portion of the reception. These evening-only guests should receive specially worded invitations specifying this.

Flourish fun

Add personality and elegance by using a professional calligrapher to write the guests’ names on the invitations or, if budget allows, to address the envelopes too.

Formal details

Think about how formal or informal you want to be, and word your invitations accordingly. For example, you need to choose between writing guests’ first names or using the more formal ‘Mr and Mrs’ etc on the invitations.


Enclosing reply cards with the invitations, for guests to fill in and send back, can help with admin (or ‘wed-min!’) Alternatively, it is usual nowadays to include both written and email RSVP details on the invitation.

Get digital

In addition to your postal invitations, a dedicated wedding website can help guests find out more details, for example, about accommodation, transport and logistics.

Personal post

Send your other half a wedding-morning letter. The romance of putting pen to paper creates a lasting memory and keepsake and beats a text message every time.

Thank you thoughts

Thank you letters[6] for wedding presents should be handwritten and sent as soon as possible after the honeymoon or, if the couple is going away later, after the wedding.

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26 Ways To Save Money In Style For Your Wedding

Do you need to rein in your spending but don’t want to compromise on your dream wedding[1]? Rachel Southwood shares 26 ways for you to save money in style…

You’ll also love our free budget planning tools[2] – get yours now and you’ll soon have your spending on track.

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Car share

Find out if any friends or family have a luxury car that you could borrow. Does your uncle have a vintage Rolls Royce tucked away in his garage? Does your cousin drive a flash Range Rover, or perhaps you have a few more unique options[3] up for grabs? Ask them if they would be happy to drive you to your wedding – they will probably be delighted to be asked and to perform those chauffeur duties.

Lucky 13

If you’re not superstitious and not fixed on a mid-summer Saturday wedding, you may find that some dates are better priced than others. Days of the week, too. Tuesday the 13th of June this year might be available and a good price, for example. We love the idea of Monday weddings, so that your guests can make a really long weekend of it. Venues[4] and suppliers are also more likely to be available if you choose an ‘obscure’ day or date.

Keep your eyes open

Join your local Facebook buy and sell groups. Couples often sell off pieces from their wedding after the event. You might pick up candles, décor items and even chair covers there. Alternatively check out the Wedding Ideas Shop[5] where you will find affordable gifts, key decor pieces and favour ideas! 

Delay the dining

Having a late ceremony is a good way to save. If you get married at, say, 4pm, there is less time to fill with entertainment and food! Plus you can do something really lovely in the morning instead of waking early and it all being a bit of a rush. 

Save on flowers

Choose seasonal flowers[6]. Your bill could be reduced by hundreds of pounds – talk to your florist about what works best at what time of year and buy British if you can. And if you have set your heart on one type of flower – peonies, for example – then you are going to have to book your wedding date accordingly, because flowers like this have a very short window of availability! Find out more about how you can save on your flowers here[7].

Choose suppliers who are just starting out – these will often be more competitively priced compared to long-established companies, but being new doesn’t mean that the skills aren’t there. You might also find more passion, commitment and creativity in a new business. These businesses will be building their portfolio and might make an extra effort for you as a result. 

Marry overseas

Getting married overseas[8] is a great option if you’re relaxed about who attends… Costs will invariably be lower because of the number of guests (though be careful how many people you invite – you might be surprised how many say yes) and also you are already on honeymoon before you start! You may also find that the hotel or resort you choose have some amazing wedding packages that your favoured UK venues just can’t beat.

Venue with a difference

Look for independent, quirky venues[9]. A friend of mine took over her favourite creperie and it cost just £1,400 for a three-course meal that we will never forget! She hired a marquee for the dancing and it all worked really well. Thinking outside the box will always work wonders!

Negotiate packages

Don’t be scared to negotiate with your venue, especially if their set packages are not exactly what you’re after. For example, they might agree on a two-course meal to replace the three courses they have, but add an extra glass of wine per head. There is always room for negotiation in life…

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Simply chic

Don’t go crazy on your centrepieces[10] – details like this won’t be remembered forever. Simple candelabra or candles in votives or Kilner jars filled with a few stems are more than enough to pretty-up your reception venue.

Sit down savings

The biggest cost of any wedding is feeding people. But do you really need to go all-out on a three-course wedding breakfast? Why not have a barbecue, hog roast or buffet?[11] I went to a wedding recently where they had lots of delicious canapés at the drinks reception and then a buffet much later. It worked really well and no-one was left feeling hungry.

Useful gifts

Ask close family to contribute to a specific part of your wedding, rather than buying you a present. Try patchworkit.com[12] and buyourhoneymoon.com[13] for ideas.

Be crafty!

DIY as many of the details as you can. You might surprise yourself, even if you didn’t think you had a creative bone in your body! You could make table centres, bunting, create sweetie tables, you could even bake cupcakes for a cupcake tower… Hand paint large letters for your dance floor, make photo booth props, favours. You could enlist the help of your bridesmaids in a craft-filled, wine-fuelled evening.

Minimal stationery

We don’t recommend that you scrimp on stationery too much, but perhaps order of service sheets and menus could be self printed and RSVP cards could be replaced with an email address. You could also make your table plan yourself.

Share the price

If you’re having a church ceremony, find out if there are any other weddings that day or even that week – you might be able to share some costs like church flowers. Similarly, if your venue is hosting other weddings that week, ask for contact details for the other couples – you might be able to share decorations or ideas.

Bring your own

If your day is to be laid back and informal, you could ask people you know to be good in the kitchen to bring a dish to create a yummy, relaxed buffet. People love to contribute to weddings; to feel part of it all. Honest!

Privilege cards

When you give notice at your registry office you should ask if they have a Privilege Card to give you. These will lead you to lots of local suppliers, many with great discounts to offer their cardholders.

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Bake off

Why not ask your guests to compete in a wedding day bake off? Ask your guests to bring their signature cake along with them, then have your guests try them and vote for their favourite, which you could announce at the end of the night or let people know by email afterwards!

Guest photographers

We always recommend a professional photographer[14] – there is simply no substitute, and it’s not worth the risk, but now everyone with a smartphone can take photos too, you don’t want to miss any of them. Make sure they all use a hashtag that you create when posting to social media and ask your guests not to post too much on the day – you don’t want details leaking out without your approval!

Take-home ‘pay’

Instead of buying those who helped most on your big day a gift, why not ask them to take home a table centre or a floral arrangement each at the end of the night? Even a hand written card will be welcome.

Get cashback

Take out a credit card with cashback to use for your wedding purchases. Some offer up to 5% and those wedding bills soon mount up.

Spread payments

Don’t go paying everything out at once. Ask your suppliers if you can pay in instalments by direct debit, which will really help with that all-important cashflow.

No extras

Don’t fuss around with and shell out on unnecessary extras. For starters (excuse the pun!), don’t provide bread rolls with your starter – your guests will only fill up on carbs and not finish what is on their plate. Use wedding cake as a dessert – you could serve a lovely sponge cake with a fruit coulis, for example, which will save on one course.

DIY photobooth

Buy a Fuji Instax or a digital Polaroid camera and set up your own photo station with props (more on how to do it here[15]). Ask your guests to leave you a snap with a note for the perfect guest book, which you will enjoy for years to come.

Go frugal on favours

Instead of shelling out on favours for each guest, why don’t you give one favour between each couple? Just make sure that it’s something that is shareable (obviously)! Let us point you in the direction of sweets[16]

Doubling up

Enlist the help of one of your guests to transport your ceremony flowers to the reception so that they double up – that way you get two decorations for the price of one!

For more advice on your wedding budget – covering everything from ways to save to insurance and who pays for what – you’ll love our ultimate guide of wedding budget tips.[17]

Have you found any smart, savvy ways to save money on your wedding? Hit ‘like’ on our Wedding Ideas Facebook page[18], and ‘follow’ on our @wimagazine Twitter account[19] to join in the conversation.


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10 Must-Have Winter Honeymoon Essentials

There’s a whole lot to love about a winter honeymoon – breathtaking mountains, powder-soft snow, an epic apres-ski scene… But just how do you pack for one?

It is your honeymoon, after all, so it goes without saying that you’ll want to look sophisticated, sexy and a little bit glam. Here are the winter honeymoon essentials you need when a bikini and maxi dress just won’t cut it, but a super-sized snow suit isn’t ideal either…

From cosy hats to sumptuous slippers and sun cream (yes, really!), we round up the winter honeymoon essentials to make packing your bags a breeze...Serafini Snow Boots £290 by My Fashion Tribu – myfashiontribu.com

Take your first steps from plane to snow in these super furry snow boots and you’ll have cosy feet that make a style statement.

From cosy hats to sumptuous slippers and sun cream (yes, really!), we round up the winter honeymoon essentials to make packing your bags a breeze...Ladies Countess Sheepskin Slippers £60 from Just Sheepskin

And when you’re cosying up in a luxury chalet or suite with a night cap after a day on the slopes, what better to keep your toes snug than these luxurious sheepskin slippers?

From cosy hats to sumptuous slippers and sun cream (yes, really!), we round up the winter honeymoon essentials to make packing your bags a breeze...White Stuff, £49.95

Layers are key when you’re hopping between freezing outdoor temperatures and the warmth of crackling log fires inside. This elegantly fitted jumper proves that layering up needn’t be frumpy.

From cosy hats to sumptuous slippers and sun cream (yes, really!), we round up the winter honeymoon essentials to make packing your bags a breeze...COOLA

Yes, it’s sub-zero outside and there’s snow all around, but the sun is still shining out there and that means you need sun cream. We can’t promise you won’t end up with a ski goggle tan, but with sun cream you will at least be protected and bronze, rather than burnt!

RELATED: Check out the hottest honeymoon trends for 2018.[1]

From cosy hats to sumptuous slippers and sun cream (yes, really!), we round up the winter honeymoon essentials to make packing your bags a breeze...Oliver Bonas, £35

Chunky knits and super soft finishes are a must on our list of winter honeymoon essentials. Pack plenty of pairs!

RELATED: How does a honeymoon fund work?[2]

From cosy hats to sumptuous slippers and sun cream (yes, really!), we round up the winter honeymoon essentials to make packing your bags a breeze...Dune, £45

We love these sophisticated gloves with a chic and warm faux fur trim, another necessity when it comes to winter honeymoon essentials.

From cosy hats to sumptuous slippers and sun cream (yes, really!), we round up the winter honeymoon essentials to make packing your bags a breeze...Monsoon, £129

Wrap up warm in a heavy coat. The high collar of this design means you don’t need to double up with a scarf, saving precious space in your suitcase.

From cosy hats to sumptuous slippers and sun cream (yes, really!), we round up the winter honeymoon essentials to make packing your bags a breeze...Oakley at Vision Express, £119

Remember the sun we were talking about? Don’t forget your sunglasses!

From cosy hats to sumptuous slippers and sun cream (yes, really!), we round up the winter honeymoon essentials to make packing your bags a breeze...Barbour, £149

A stylish rucksack gives you a comfortable and convenient place to store any purchases. With destinations like Chamonix offering luxury shopping as good as its skiing, you’ll be glad you packed one…

From cosy hats to sumptuous slippers and sun cream (yes, really!), we round up the winter honeymoon essentials to make packing your bags a breeze...OZLANA Fruit Sliders £59.99 by OZLANA at Asos.com

Now you’ve nailed your accessories with these winter honeymoon essentials, you need an equally stylish destination to show them off at! The world’s most Instagram-worthy honeymoon destinations[3] might just be a good place to start…

What can you add to this list of winter honeymoon essentials?

Twin babies

How to get twin babies

Twin babiesThe idea of having twins tends to polarise people. Some couples say they’d love the chance to parent two babies and others react in an entirely different way. If you are a twin or have twin siblings then your concept of the reality is likely to be very different to someone who’s never had anything to do with more than one baby at a time.

Are twins common?

Many reproductive experts believe that as humans we probably have more twin pregnancies than any of us are aware of. Technological advances have found that it is reasonably common for there to be more than one embryo conceived and implanted, but of these, only one is viable and survives.

How do twins happen?

If you are keen to increase your chances of conceiving two babies then it’s important to understand how twins are made.

There are two types of twins; identical and non-identical. Identical or monozygotic twins are formed when one egg is fertilized by one sperm which then divides into two separate embryos. Each shares exactly the same genetic components and identical genetic structures. Identical twins also share a placenta.

Non-identical or dizygotic twins form from two separate eggs being fertilised by two separate sperm. These twins are their own unique little individuals and share no more genetic composition than siblings with the same parents. Each baby in a non-identical twin pair will have its own placenta.

Another name for non-identical twins is fraternal; the other name for identical twins is non-fraternal.

What about twins in families?

Twins do run in families. But the genetic predisposition for having twins only applies to the mother. It is her family history which influences the chances of her having hyper ovulation.

Any woman can have identical twins and family history does not play a role with these.

What are the odds of having twins?

Currently in Australia 1.6% of all pregnancies result in multiple births and of these, 98% are twins. Naturally conceived twins occur once in around every eighty nine births. The majority of twins who are born are non identical and a result of two eggs being fertilised.

Some fraternal twins look very similar; others share some resemblance whilst the remainder may not even look the slightest bit related.

What will help boost my chances of having twins?

Being older rather than younger helps. It seems to be a twist of nature that just before a woman enters peri-menopause, her ovaries start releasing more than one egg each month. This “fertility spike” is also influenced by a surge of oestrogen. Fertility research has proven that twin pregnancies are much more common in women who are over 35 years. But this only applies to non-identical twins.
Have fertility assistance such as in vitro fertilisation or take fertility drugs. These stimulate the ovaries to support more than one ovarian follicle each month towards maturity. The result is that more than one egg is released.
Pick your own genetics carefully! Though we all know this is impossible. But if you come from a family where non-identical twins are common then your family history and genetic endowment means that you’ve got a greater chance of having them yourself. But identical twins can occur in any family.
Be of African/American heritage. Women from this ethnic background have a distinctly higher rate of twin pregnancies.
Having been pregnant before. Women who have previously had a baby or two have a higher chance of conceiving with twins.
Have a big family. This theory is based on pure maths; the more times you conceive the greater the likelihood of conceiving more than one baby.
Get pregnant while you are on the pill. Difficult as this can be overall, there is a higher incidence of women conceiving with twins when they are on oral contraceptives.
Try to conceive straight after you have stopped taking the pill. The theory is that for the first couple of cycles the woman’s body is going through a hormonal readjustment phase.
Already have a set of twins. Because the likelihood of conceiving with twins again is higher in women who’ve already had them.
Be heavier rather than lighter so that you’ve got a higher body mass index (BMI). Some researchers claim that a woman with a BMI of greater than 30 boosts her chances. But considering a healthy range during the fertile years is 20-25 and 30 would put you into the overweight/obese category then this is not a healthy recommendation.
Taller women tend to conceive more twins. But there is nothing you can do about your height, other than blame your parents!
Take a folic acid supplement before you conceive. The general recommendation for women who are planning to conceive is to start taking folic acid supplements one month before conception.
Encourage your partner to eat some oysters. The urban myth about oysters being an aphrodisiac is not entirely without basis. Oysters are high in zinc and this helps with sperm production. The more healthy and mobile his sperm are, the greater the likelihood of being able to fertilise an egg or two. If he’s keen to take supplements, the recommendation for men in their fertile years is 14mg/day. Green leafy vegetables, cereals, bread, seeds and wheat germ are all excellent sources of zinc.
Be a twin yourself. Mothers who are twins are more likely to have twin babies. There is no influence on the male partner’s side, only the mother’s. But it does seem that fathers may pass the twin gene onto their daughters for their future conception possibilities.
Eat more yams/sweet potatoes. It is a fact that more women conceive with twins who live in areas where yams are a major component of their diet. It seems that a naturally occurring chemical component of the yams helps to support ovarian function.
Keep breastfeeding your older baby or toddler. Women who are producing prolactin and breastfeeding are more likely to conceive with twins. Though some women do not resume regular ovulation and menstrual cycles for the entire time they are breastfeeding; this is very individual.
What’s fact and what’s fiction when having twins?

The idea that conceiving twins skips a generation is not true. Although there can appear to be a pattern in some families of this happening, the odds of having identical twins is the same for every woman.
Eating a diet which is high in dairy foods, milk and meat is said to help, especially at the time of ovulation. But there is no scientific evidence to support this.
Alternative therapies do not increase the likelihood. There is no scientific evidence to support the theory that accupuncture, naturopathy, aromatherapy, chiropractic or flower essences increase the likelihood of having twins.

Korean drama destroy relationship

Korean Drama destroy relationship

Korean drama destroy relationshipKorean drama destroy relationship

This is a news article that was published in thestar.com.my on 19 February.

For newly wed please dont ask for unrealistic romance. It may destroy your wedding. Please dont expect to much from your partner. Accept your partner the way they are. They cannot change in one night. It is not love if you expect something in return and always hoping him to be romantic. Drama is drama and it is a fiction only. Please read more for the story.

A WOMAN in China broke up with her boyfriend because he was not as romantic as the male protagonist in Korean hit drama My Love From The Star, reported China Press.

The man, known only as Chen, said his girlfriend had become “unrealistically” romantic after watching the series, which stars Kim Soo-hyun as an alien who lands on Earth and falls in love with an actress.

The break-up came after Chen rejected his girlfriend’s request to buy her fried chicken and beer at 1am because he was too tired and lived far away.

He also denied her request for her number to be put on his speed dial.

Later, Chen realised that in the series, the actress, played by Jun Ji-hyun, had had fried chicken and beer on a snowy day and her love interest had her number on speed dial.

Plan your wedding

Plan your wedding

Plan your wedding

Getting engaged can be one of the most memorable and exciting moments in your life. For t­he first few weeks after the proposal, you both feel dizzy with happiness and are bursting with anticipation. As well you both should be! You’ve met the man or woman of your dreams, you’ve decided to get married, and now it’s time to plan the wedding — the official celebration of your love and commitment.

As you plan this wonderful day, you both will continue to feel great joy, but may also experience a few butterflies and a little confusion. After all, organizing a ceremony and reception is a big undertaking.

There will be questions about anything and everything: from the meal (fish, chicken, or beef?) to the wedding gown (low-cut, fitted, or empire-waisted?) to the reception music (live band, small orchestra, or DJ?). There will be issues about budgets, guest lists, and styles.

But in the end, just remember what this day is really about — a celebration of love. Stay focused, and keep organized. This is where this article comes in handy. It’s packed with helpful information and useful worksheets that you both can click on and print out to help you stay on top of your wedding planning. You’ll find:

  • checklists for keeping track of what needs to be done
  • useful charts for organizing the many little wedding-related details
  • worksheets for wading through vendor candidates and potential site possibilities
  • hint boxes loaded with valuable tips and other information

Plus, this article features special Stress-Busters and Budget Extenders tips that help you both tackle the tough problems and really stretch the wedding dollars.

Designed to help the engaged couple plan an entire wedding, from announcing the engagement and buying the rings to cutting your cake and planning the honeymoon, this article will help you both create a truly memorable day — without driving yourselves crazy in the process.

Every wedding is different so there might be worksheets that you both will have to reprint to have enough to cover all of your guests or all of your vendor candidates. Conversely, there might be some worksheets that you won’t need at all or that you might have to tweak to fit your needs.

Get started on the right track by beginning a list of important phone numbers — from wedding party members to the florist and musicians. Then take a look at the next page to help you establish a budget and a timetable. You both also will find information about announcing your engagement and how to choose a ring — that is, if you don’t have your rings already!

Source : howstuffworks.com

Sabah wedding environment friendly

Environmentally-friendly wedding

Sabah wedding environment friendly

Environmentally-conscious couples will aspire to minimise the carbon footprint of their wedding.

For couples that are environmentally friendly they can say ” I do” the envrionmentally way such as :

Keep them simple, use recycled paper and print on both sides.

Make a donation to a worthy cause on behalf of your guests in lieu of wedding favours.

If you really want to then perhaps consider giving away plants or gifts that are manufactured by the local community.

Something old, something borrowed
Consider having a your mother’s wedding dress re-styled or perhaps use her veil?

Have your makeup artist and hair stylist use organic and natural products.

Use local blloms whenever possible.

Incorporate organic candles into your decor. They create a soft, romantic ambience.

Choose a venue that is environmentally certified. Alternatively, get married outdoors.

Minimise carbon emissions
Choose a venue that is easy to get to. Cut down on travel by hosting the banquet at the same location as well.

Hire a bus to ferry the entire extended family instead of driving several cars.


P/s : If you are looking for an ebook that can help you in Malay wedding preparation you can read Perkahwinan Melayu – Panduan Persediaan Perkahwinan. This is really a good book. 

Personalise Sabah wedding

5 ideas how to personalise your wedding

5 ideas how to personalise your wedding ceremony…


Personalise Sabah wedding

  • Write your own vows.
  • Have a family member or close friend read a poem.
  • Incorporate a family heirloom into your attire.
  • Live music by a string quartet perhaps.
  • Include traditions from both cultures if you are having an inter-cultural marriage.

You can also ask your friends or family members for a suggestion.
P/s : We will update this lists from time to time.So stay tune.